#27 attend a major sporting event

Back in June/July I was lucky enough to attend Royal Ascot and Henley Royal Regatta. In November when I’m in Miami I fully intend on trying to get tickets to see Heat play too.

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When Are You Getting Married?

Hi my name is Ally, I’m 35, and I once described my vagina as being like Helmand Province because nobody wants to spend any time there. 

I’m at the stage of being single where people love to comment on it, like when my lovely young nephew said “When are you going to get married Aunty Owl? Because I’m getting married when I’m 26 and you’re way older than that”. 

My Stepmum gave me the advice that I need to “keep casting my bread on the water, because you never know when a duck will fancy a nibble” but sadly all I seem to attract is old shopping trollies and welly boots. 

It started with the knicker melter, so called because well I’m sure you can figure it out. I plucked up the courage to ask him for a drink and there we were in a grotty pub and I was giving it my best chat. Flirting, being interested, really pulling out my best moves, but then I realised he hadn’t asked me a single question. Not a one. Leaning over my wine glass and with a rather wanky flutter of my eyelashes I asked, 

“Is there anything you’d like to know about me?” 

I was NOT expecting his response, 

“No, I found out everything I needed to know on Google”.

GOOGLE. He then proceeded to give me a potted history of my entire family, and was most impressed by the fact my brother had won a bravery award… ten years previously. That shit was definitely not on the first page of results. Don’t get me wrong we all do it, but it’s not something you admit to. Like the time you almost wet yourself in Tesco or cried at Peppa Pig. 

Then like most people internet dating I got catfished. I’d been talking to this very tall chatty man online, we had loads in common and great banter so decided to go for a walk on the common and then a drink. Lovely stuff. There I was stood in the sunshine when I saw this chap walking up so I smiled because I am polite. Then I realised that this man was walking right at me and was in fact my date. This man who was 5’5” if he’d been wearing 6” heels and was wearing a suit he’d clearly borrowed from his Dad. He’d pushed the sleeves back on it and looked like a Don Johnson from junior Miami Vice. 

We went for a very awkward walk once round the lake, he tried to kiss me and I hightailed it out of there. Thankfully although it looked like I was on a date with a child he hadn’t lied about his age so I wasn’t going to end up on a register. However waving goodbye to Don Johnson waved in the era of sailing rather close to the appropriate age gap wind as I started my thirties. 

This began with ‘The One Direction Barman’, so called because he looked like he should be in a boyband but with the fetching addition of a porn star moustache. He was the barman in my local and after a few too many Darth Vader cocktails watching the rugby I ended up going home with him safe in the knowledge that I was never going to hear the end of it from my friends. Next morning making awkward small talk he said,

“I’d love to see you again” and I thought ‘well you ARE the barman in my local’ and then he continued,

“Why don’t you come out next week, it’s my birthday” I said I’d think about it while meaning that of course I wasn’t going to think about and then he dropped the clanger,

“It’s going to be a great night, you don’t turn 21 every day”. 

Reader, I left him. And yes, you bet I found a new local. 

It transpired that I had a bit of a ‘thing’ for bar staff, especially those who put my eye wateringly expensive G&T’s on my Dad’s tab. We agreed to go for a picnic in the Sussex countryside and spent a very nice afternoon wiling away the hours. As the sun started to set suddenly we were joined by a variety of cars and couples – he had the good grace to look embarrassed but I did also catch him giving me a look as if to enquire whether I would be up for a casual spot of dogging. 

I wasn’t. 

We headed to the pub and he mentioned that he had to be home by half ten. Having spent the afternoon together I didn’t take it as a bad sign although he did seem rather het up about it and then he said it, 

“She’ll kill me if I’m not home on time” 

Oh fan-fucking-tastic I was on a date with a married man. 

Yeah, she was really pissed off with my mock A-Level results so I’m on a curfew”. 

And these are just the ones who make it out of my inbox. There’s the karate kid who asks me a string of questions about martial arts, never deviating from the script. 

“Have you ever done karate?”

“Would you ever do ju-jitsu?”

“How high can you kick?”

“How hard can you kick?”

“Have you ever kicked anyone in the balls?”

One day curiosity got the better of me so I replied asking if he really thought his approach was going to work. My inbox pinged and I felt genuine excitement and getting an insight to his psyche but of course I was left unsatisfied,

“Would you wear a kendo outfit in the bedroom?”

There’s also ‘What The Fuck Chuck’ who always tracks me down and likes to ask if I knock loudly on doors with my ‘frankly massive hands’, and then there’s Chuck’s opposite number who says I have ‘incredibly dainty feminine hands’. So one large hand, one small hand, and I’m left feeling like Nemo flapping in circles round the dating pool. 

There’s the guy who wants to buy my old shoes as long as they’re ‘very worn’, the adult baby who wanted me to be his ‘new Mummy’, the adult baby who wanted to pay me to change his nappies, the man who wanted me for a visa, the man who said I reminded him of Xena Warrior Princess but with a bigger arse and the man who wanted to jizz on my glasses. 

It’s not just them though, I confess to being a bit of a nob when it comes to my romantic life. Over the years in the pursuit of love I’ve:

  • Posted a Big Mac meal to Guernsey. 
  • Learned the history of a shitty football team “just in case” and
  • Spent a summer in college hanging round a county town so I could “fancy seeing you here”. 

I also am afflicted by ‘the fear’. When you’ve kissed someone for the first time and you want to say something cool because even if you don’t want to kiss them again you want them to want to kiss you. 

In the past the fear has made me come out with such classics as “I’ve been waiting for that all week” on a first date, “woah! That was a lot of tongue” on a first date, and “mmmm garlic” on a first date. And I wonder why I don’t get to date two? 

The pièce de résistance though was on a date with a 6’10” adonis who unfortunately was in the running for title of the most boring man on the planet. He spent the entire night talking about quantitiative easing so I did what anyone in my position would do, I got white girl wasted on Chardonnay whilst thinking about quantitatively easing him out of his clothes. 

Outside of the restaurant we were waiting for a taxi when he took me into his arms and we had a movie worthy kiss. As we pulled apart though I was hit by the fear, I was gazing up into his beautiful blue eyes when it came hurtling out,

“Can I lick your teeth?” 

Live From The Trenches

You spend ages picking your best photos that show you in the right light, you want to look your best, you want to appear approachable, and you want to show you have friends and a life that doesn’t just involve watching Netflix and talking to your cat.

Then you get a man who leads with this:

Sucks

 

The man with a mirror selfie who thinks he’s doing the right thing in telling you that you look ten years older than you actually are. I love the way he even points out that he’s not negging me to get into my pants, nope, he’s just that rude. But it’s not the worst thing to lead with, as this next chap shows…

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See, I’m so nice I even blurred out the name of the man who is trying to cheat on his wife and you probably won’t be surprised to hear that I didn’t in fact reply with the below,

‘Oh blank! How very lovely that it is that you want to bang someone other than the woman you took vows with. I am SO flattered and not at all skeeved out by this’ 

Of course if you don’t have a wife to lead with, how’s about sending pages and pages of unrequested and terrible erotic literature? This isn’t even as ‘good’ as ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’, it’s more like ‘Ten Shades of WTF’.

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It went on for about twenty scrolls down and it was without doubt the most excruciatingly awful message I’d received. I deleted it without replying but then my inbox pinged again,

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Not only did he automatically assume he’d be meeting me, he assumed I’d pay for it because he was in fact a male escort touting for business. It may have been a while but I was am still not going to pay him for ‘his tongue passing along the reliefs of her intimacy, visiting each hem, every fold and folding up… in a sulky concert of groans’. Oh fuck no.

I’m also not interested in taking a slave (although I do need some pictures hung), being a slave, or making it with an invertebrate.

Slave

Master Likes

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Then there was this guy who clearly got lost on his way to a popular online shopping emporium. Although I dread to think what he was buying given his photo…

Amazon

 

*Sidles In Looking Shifty*

Hi there, hello there, *ahem* yeah sorry about that unscheduled break from your regular programming. I got into the ‘zone’ with my book manuscript and was spending every waking moment going over it line by line whilst simultaneously thinking it was alright actually and then wailing and wanting to scrap it and start again because it’s a massive pile of dung.

I also just didn’t feel like blogging because, well I don’t know why actually, although it’s probably something to do with yet another medication change. I’m a huge advocate of the NHS but it’s intensely frustrating to see a brand new Psychiatrist every time you go because it turns out they all have very different ideas of how you should be treated.

Regular programming will resume over the coming days, and maybe I’ll even stick to a schedule this time. Although don’t hold your breath…

 

#80 Vacation solo

I slipped and booked flights to Boston with three and a half weeks in between. Oops. It didn’t cross my mind to go with anyone even though a friend told me she thought it was sad (as in sob sob) that I didn’t have someone to share it with. I had the greatest time of my life, caught up with Charlotte in Chicago, caught up with friends in Vermont I’d not spoken to let alone seen in seventeen years and visited 6 states.

I had to balance a stack of books on a table to take the photo below and I was too embarrassed to use my selfie stick so I donated it to some tourists. And yes, too much blusher.

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The extra special aunt spiker Friday five: 06-10-2017

My darling Aunt Spiker

The end of months of revising harder than anyone I’ve ever known is almost at an end and I am SO SO PROUD OF YOU. 


You have persisted through the highs and the lows, the moments where you’ve really struggled and those when it’s all come together and you’ve thought “I’ve got this”. 

Just know that when you step into that exam room (over two days! Urgh!) you have so many people rooting for you. We can’t wait to celebrate with you and see you get your weekends back! 

Thought you might like a little mood booster before next week so darling, this is for you:

Listening: Well, how could it be anything other than your Friday song?! Remember ‘Everything is Awesome!’ 

Drinking: Hard earned cocktails in Bali – very soon…

Watching: Anything with a Tom, we know you love a Tom. 

Loving: Us all! Loving you loving us right back! What a lotta love. Also: loving it almost being over. 

Mantra: How can you believe in a positive outcome with negative thoughts? Always believe in yourself no matter what. 

Jungle Boogie cocktails on me when it’s all over, 

Love you, love you, mean it, mean it! 

Hipflasks and snow plans forever, 

Aunt Sponge xxxx 

#56 sing loudly on top of a mountain

Cruising along the Kancamagus Highway en route to Portland, ME and my sat nav had a ‘moment’ shall we say and I needed to pull over to give it a good whack. I pulled into a car park and soon realised I was in a ski resort which wasn’t open yet. Being petrified of heights I decided in my infinite wisdom to get in a gondola and go to the top, ironically called Loon Mountain.

There wasn’t a soul up there apart from the guy pressing the up and down button so I went and took a seat in their outdoors amphitheatre for a ‘think’ before standing up and belting ‘Can’t Take My Eyes Off You’ like I was Heath Ledger in that film. Not sure why I chose that song but it seemed right in the moment. Yes the guy did give me a side eye when I headed to get down.

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