In the latest edition of GLAMOUR magazine there’s an article called ‘Channel Your Inner American and Change Your Life!’ in which Sarah Tomczak suggests that she is ‘ballsy, bitchy and bold’ thanks to five years living in New York. The article says that British women aren’t confident in their own abilities and that we should all work to become our own personal cheerleaders. I like the sound of being your own cheer squad (Awesome! Oh wow! Like totally freak me out I mean right on! Ally sure is number one!) in order to silence those confidence eating demons that we all have but like everything in life, there’s a limit.
In its pure form it’s something that I agree with wholeheartedly, I think women do need a boost to their confidence but there is a thin line between confidence and arrogance and people need to remember that. I’m seeing women stride purposefully over the line into arrogance still thinking that they’re just being confident in their abilities and that this is a good thing. It’s not.
By all means be confident in who you are and what you stand for, in fact I wish I and quite a few of my lady friends could be more like this, but don’t be that arrogant arsehole of a woman who thinks she’s the absolute bees knees at everything and harps on about it loudly at every opportunity. The sort of woman who thinks she is the world expert on just about everything going and will never accept that she can actually be bad at something without the world coming to an end.
The article points out that arrogance is an over-inflation of your capabilities which I think actually stems from a lack of confidence in yourself. I think the key is to be quietly confident, self assured and able to shout your shit from the rooftop when necessary but also be a bit humble about things so you don’t come across as a gigantic arrogant twat.