After bombing back over to Sussex for dinner with Mumma L-M’s best friends on Thursday night and the Peters-Newman wedding on Friday, I then had to tear myself away from a very sunny beer garden to get into a ridiculously hot car and hurtle down to Wiltshire on Saturday afternoon to meet Bells and the Boyfriend to head to Surrey for the Computer Geek’s birthday celebrations. After a tour of their new house and my official introduction to Bruce Moose de la Goose (their little brown Mohawk dog) we all piled into their car to head to Horsell for dinner.
The Computer Geek and Jet had laid on drinks and continental nibbles to fill the hole before dinner and Bruce laid on the entertainment by being utterly bonkers and completely adorable at the same time. Making an appearance for the first time in about a year was the Physics Geek, and I’m pleased to say that I felt nothing. It was nice to see him and it was a bit weird at the beginning but I think that was because I hadn’t seen him in so long and he has got very grey and even skinnier not because I was once in love with him and felt like my heart had been ripped in two when we moved away from each other. Some of CG’s family were there and we met his older brother for the first time, I’ve never known two brothers more alike in thought and word and deed.
The nicest thing about last night was that we haven’t seen each other since last summer and haven’t all been in the same room since last February and yet nothing had changed. That’s the greatest thing about friends who have been through a lot together, the bonds of past experience keep you attached in an unspoken and invisible way. We went to the Red Lion which is near their flat and is a good quality gastro pub with a nice wine menu and great food. I had “Horsell Royals” sausages from the local butchers with colcannon mash and onion gravy which was lip smackingly good however once more my pouch had something to say about it and as soon as we were back at the flat I had to excuse myself and have a chat on the porcelain telephone.
It really pissed me off. I just wish there was some consistency in what foods make me sick and what foods I’m okay with because then it would stop me having to excuse myself from evenings with friends to horf my guts up which in turn makes me sleepy, irritable and ravenously hungry. As I sat there last night hearing all their exciting news I couldn’t help but think back to when we first met years ago in a cramped and crazy shared house with a tightfisted Scottish landlord. I didn’t think then that we would all still be friends years later, or that we would be making such strides into our chosen careers and setting the world alight so brightly. There are big things to come from these kids that’s for sure!
It was nice to see the Physics geek and I look forward to seeing him and his lady friend some time again soon but the nicest bit was the fact that it was confirmation that my world hasn’t crumbled since we moved out. It was like a divorce and my world felt like it had fallen in, I wasn’t sure how I was going to cope without him to support me. At the time I felt cheated and scared but now I realise it’s the best thing that could have happened to me because it was such an unhealthy situation for both involved. There was a little pang of sadness that this person who knew me better than I knew myself for almost seven years was like a veritable stranger now but as the saying goes, “friends for a reason, friends for a season, friends for a lifetime”. PG was a friend for a reason and for a season and I have plenty of friends for a lifetime.